You must first love yourself before you can fully love another...
In life, we may find it easy to allow ourselves to love and accept multitudes of other people, but when it comes
to loving ourselves we're not as forgiving. In fact, we can be quite relentless in our pursuit of perfection. So,
how then do you learn to put aside all the should and should not we face, and really begin a love affair with
The first step is to realize that you are somebody. You're a friend, someone's daughter or son, possibly a
lover, an employee or employer, or maybe even someone's spouse. No matter how your role changes, you're
still somebody. Nothing will ever change that.
The next step is to take time out to actually love yourself. In romantic relationships it is often said that true
love is shown through actions, not words. Learn to apply this to yourself with the following ideas, and you'll be
on the road to a lifetime romance, with yourself!
Write a love letter to yourself. In the letter describe what you really like about you, and what you'd like to
improve about yourself. Keep it in a special place you can refer to when needed.
Make appointments with yourself to do artistic or spiritually uplifting activities. For example, you might enjoy
going on a picnic at the park, taking a tour through an art museum, or taking a walk in a secluded area.
The Finer Things In Life
Enjoy the finer things in life! Eat on your "good" dishes. Enjoy a candlelit meal. Listen to a favorite CD over
champagne. Wear your favorite clothes. Treat yourself to unexpected present.
Try learning an enlightening hobby such as yoga or meditation.
Freedom Of Yourself
Give yourself freedom to make mistakes. Instead of questioning why you are doing, or may have done,
something, just accept that you did it. Know inside that you'll handle it when you're ready to, and that it is
okay to do just that.
Forgive yourself for something in your past. Write a letter of apology that includes everything you might have
done. Seal it in an envelope, and keep it somewhere private.
Live life day-by-day. Try not to worry about what will, or will not happen in the future. Or, what may, or may
not have happened in your past. All things are created in the present. Remember, your future and your past
are created by what you are doing right now this very moment.